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Hello Followers of this Blog.

Kalusudda is no more. He never returned from the sea, at least not the way I and many others wanted him to.

As he always was, passed away helping his brother to live. His last words to his favorite brother was  “You got to go Man, you got kids!,” Written on a Message slate, but little he knew, he was a father too.

Now there is a little but exact replica of him running around. Just as naughty, creative and mostly, loving. Four years old and already breaking girls hearts. It is amazing how traits travel down the blood line. You would love to know, a couple of weeks ago, our son walked up to a girl, who was differently abled, looked at her for a while, smiled and gave her a huge hug. The girls mother cried aloud, because no one has ever been so kind to her. Strangers thanked him and he stood there, smiling, hands on his hips, as if saying, “Yea That is me!”. I cried, knowing, I have not lost a thing. So do not be too sad. 

His Mom could never recover from the loss and she joined him about one year after.  His favorite Grand Ma is with us in Japan now. She wants to spend rest of her life, near the little one. His Dad is still in California and so are his brothers. We are a family but it is hard for me to see the brothers. It is not hate, just they reflect his love for others. His Dad comes over all the time and we too travel back and forth. We are keeping the house that he so lovingly prepared for us.

I did not know about this blog and was sort of forced to find the information about the blog, Luckily he never forgot to leave all the information for me and for his Mom, including all his passwords for everything. I was asked to make this post, by one of the Sri Lankan friends of us. He wanted to let all the people who followed him have a closure. 

Before writing, I finished reading his posts, and he was much more than what he depicted. A human being, worth waiting, a life time for. Five years, and I still turn around and expect to see him standing with arms outstretched.

Say good bye to him in your own ways. 

Bye, Miss Fukuoka


  1. So sorry and sad to hear of your loss. Words fail me 😦

  2. I’m so very sorry about your terrible loss, Miss Fukuoka. Though I and KS were not the closest buddies we have had several engaging conversations and he was fun bloke to talk to. The world shall be poorer without him. 😦

  3. I’m terribly sorry for your loss. Kalusadda was a wonderful person indeed. He cheered me up when I felt hopeless, even though we’ve never met. And of course, his blog was great reading. I wish you and your son the very best in life.

  4. May he rest in peace.

  5. May he rest in peace ! 😦

  6. A real man…. real hero…..

  7. My deepest sympathies, I was one of the many who enjoyed this blog.

  8. May he rest in peace.

  9. I am so sorry for your loss. I did not have the pleasure to meet KS in person but from his writing and kind words – his sould was one of the kindest I have met.
    RIP and my thoughts are with you and your family.

    Scrumpy x

  10. I am so sad to hear about this as I wondered what happened to him. I show below what he thought of me, and I am honored that so far away he followed my writing from Sri Lanka and liked what I had to say. It makes my work so much more worthwhile.

    I now write more on now as I suffered a horrific accident that curtailed by work and life.

    I know he is still encouraging me in some way to keep writing and I hope his son will one day understand the man his dad was to so many people who never knew him, other than from his writings and thoughts.

    Rajaratarala 20th comments

    June 20, 2008 – 7:11 pm
    Posted in SL Fun, SL Serious
    Tagged appu’s kussiya, barko bama, cerno, Dream into reality, g-strings,, Perceptions, rajaratarala
    Leave a Comment
    Left two on, about a Cover-Up and Barko Bama. Then went on to see about a drink at Appu’s Kussiya called Alavangua. Then I saw Sri Lankan men in g-Strings at Dennam Bettey before heading over to Rajaratarala’s two good blogs, Dream into reality and Perceptions which I really like. He knows how to tell stories. Opps I did leave my first comment on First 500 days of bloggin on cerno

    Man that is too much 😉

    The link above by Kalusudda refers to a June 20th 2008 where my ( I am Rajaratarala) two blogs (Dream Into Reality and Perceptions )were mentioned .

  11. RIP.

  12. my deepest sympathies to you. I just found this page through another link. Your husband’s blog was always a source of entertainment and information. I wish you and your son the very best in life. Take care and tell your son his dad was much loved by strangers who only knew him as a digital presence… such was the greatness of his spirit!

  13. I had seen this blog on and off on the kottu feed. He lives on through you and your beautiful son.. and in some strange way through this blog, we are all connected, and I am sad for someone I never really knew..and feel for his family, I will never know. All the best to you and your son, and thank you for this post.

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